| Why do people often view adoption as a try out? It’s not a pet you know?

Why do people often view adoption as a try out? It’s not a pet you know?

Ryan I asked:


Sometimes I think people adopt just because they want a live talking pet. That’s fine, you are allowed to have a pet; however, adopting a child in replacement for a pet is somewhat cruel.

Few years ago, I over heard a conversation where this girl in her twenties saying that she had adopted a child, did not like how the child behaved so she returned him.

Hell, I feel bad being rejected, imagine for the kid, being rejected twice in his or her lifetime for not being a wanted human being. Their not pets.

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7 Responses to “Why do people often view adoption as a try out? It’s not a pet you know?”

  1. Keira S on June 2nd, 2009 2:57 pm

    i agree, but you dont really know the full story, she might have just had a really bad relationship with him, some people just arnt compatible, i think its better she ‘returns him’ than putting up with, and hating him. hopefully he got a happy family by being ‘returned’

  2. *Tell em* on June 4th, 2009 7:44 am

    I agree That is sad but unfortunately this happens because some people are not capable of dealing with a child who has “issues” Shit i would have issues too if i was in that situation. But yeah people can be cruel and very selfish.

  3. Wally Z on June 4th, 2009 1:50 pm

    It is not that they think of them as a pet. Unfortunately it is partially due to a large supply of kids and not many potential adoptive parents. It is not easy raising a child that is already set in their ways plus the fact that some of these kids were put up because their birth parents couldn’t handle them in the first place. I must add that I know of several couples that have taken in trouble makers specifically and many were successful in turning them around, but they were strong enough to make a difference.

  4. Penny P on June 5th, 2009 1:21 am

    I don’t think most people view adoption like this. I don’t understand where you get “often” from. Not only is adoption not cheap, it is not easy. It is a long drawn out process and people who are willing to go through that process have to really want children to be able to make it through the waiting, the emotional strain, the financial strain etc etc. I seriously think it would be a rarity for a family to adopt a child and then send that child away. Perhaps you heard only part of the story, or the girl knew you were evesdropping and was trying to pull one over on you.

  5. Heather B on June 8th, 2009 3:58 am

    Absolutely. It breaks my heart when people promise a child a so-called ‘Forever Family’ then reject and return them like something they got at a store; call it ‘disruption’ and then have the balls to lay all the responsibility for the ‘disruption’ onto the CHILD - makes me so sick. Poor kids.

    Equally sad is when the newborn doesn’t come out ‘perfect’ (wrong color or medical problem) I mean, would they reject the child so easily if it was born to them.

  6. Suzy Sunshine on June 15th, 2009 11:58 pm

    What a silly and irresponsible post.

    You hear some girl say something…

    She was kidding, don’t use it to feed your anti-adoption campaign.

  7. mom2adorablebabiesfurry&human on June 20th, 2009 3:47 pm

    I know many adoptive families. I visit a board dedicated to Adoption. I’ve never heard such a strange thing you claim.

    Infact i don’t even believe you over heard such a conversation.